"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." – Lao-TzuWe loved this one as soon as we set our eyes on it. It's so true because being the object of love might make you stronger but being the giver of that love gives you unmatched confidence and boldness. It's also aligned with the philosophy that 'love given is better than love received,' which echoes the bard's famous lines as delivered by Olivia in the Twelfth Night: "Love sought is good, but given unsought better." If you love someone more than you love yourself, you are a tremendously brave and courageous person because love takes courage to give, whether it's a sibling, a friend, or a partner in a relationship. Customize this to your own style of delivery when you plan to use it. You can say something like: "The love you have for me gives me strength, but the love I have for you makes me brave." Practice it so it doesn't sound unnatural or, worse, corny. In fact, you don't even have to use the exact words. Simple version: "My love for you makes me stronger."
"I think we dream so we don't have to be apart for so long. If we're in each other's dreams, we can be together all the time." – A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-PoohAn adorable and so-true quote from the equally adorable Winnie the Pooh, a 'silly old bear' that won the hearts of millions of children - and adults - worldwide. It perfectly fits the context of long-distance relationships, where the pain of physical separation is often too much to "bear." Long-distance relationships are truly challenging and not made for most of us. You need a tremendous amount of resolve to stay the distance when it comes to a long-distance relationship. And the strength to stay resolute often comes from our imagination; in other words, our dreams. Dreams are not just the ones that you get while you sleep. Some dreams, like the idea of one day being together with your long-distance love, keep us awake and keep us alive. They are forward-looking dreams that make us anticipate each day with excitement because it's one day closer to our goals. This kind of positive thinking is crucial in any type of relationship, especially for LDRs or long-distance relationships. However, it is equally valuable in a PR or proximity relationship because it helps keep our eyes on what the future holds in store for us. It gives us the one thing that has gotten humanity through the worst of times throughout history - hope. Simple version: "You're with me all the time. In my dreams."
"There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart." – Mahatma GandhiThe man who single-handedly brought the British Empire to its knees and set the ball rolling for India's independence uttered these timeless words. It's an ideal quote for a friend you're saying farewell to, but it also works for a relationship that ends amicably. The essence of this quote can be found in many saying from cultures across the world and from sources as diverse as can be: “Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.” - Persian poet Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī “Goodbyes are not forever, are not the end" - Unknown “Saying goodbye doesn’t mean anything. It’s the time we spent together that matters, not how we left it.” - Trey Parker, co-creator of South Park All of these reflect the sentiment that goodbyes are merely devices to deal with separation, and that they have little to do with reality. What keeps someone alive is the memory of them, not their physical selves. Why do you think we don't spare even a second to think about the majority of people we come across on a daily basis? It's because they don't really exist for us; in other words, they don't form a part of our active and conscious memories. By contrast, a very close friend you haven't seen in a long time is as close to you as they ever were despite the time and distance separating you. More often than not, it's the memory that counts. Simple version: "Goodbye is a comma, not a period."
"All relationships go through hell but real relationships get through it." - UnknownWow! That packs a punch, doesn't it? And there's no denying the truth of it, either. Every relationship goes through a period of turbulence - or five hundred. But meaningful relationships get past the noise and make it back into the sunlight where they first originated. A good relationship requires several things. We've covered that in more detail in this article titled: 4 Pillars to Strengthen Any Relationship. We highly recommend that you read it. The link opens in a new tab so you can continue reading here. In real life, that's the test of a true relationship. Will you still be in 'puppy love' when you're both in your 80s? We don't mean the immature kind of puppy love where you only have eyes (and hands) for each other in public and in private; we're talking about a truly mature relationship where there is trust, respect, and all that good stuff. Many couples stay married for 30, 40, 50 years but choose to (yes, choose to) stay in hell all their lives. If each of them could just give in a little every once in a while, it'll make the trip through hell much faster. Everyone goes through hell in a relationship, and everyone wants to come out on the other side; few actually do. For many of us, it remains a wish or a dream until the day we die. Simple version: None!
"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy. I'm telling you it's going to be worth it." - Arthur L. Williams Jr.This one just resonates so much with what's going on in the world today. Did you know (you probably do) that nearly half of all marriages end in divorce? Statistically speaking, for every 6.5 marriages per 1,000 population, there are 2.9 divorces per 1,000 population. That's 44.6% of all marriages ending in a divorce. For God's sake, why? According to Couple Family Psychology, a research paper published several years ago, the top reason for divorce is lack of commitment. The second reason was infidelity. The third reason was too much conflict. If you boil it down to its essentials, the top three reasons are actually one reason - the going wasn't easy and one or both of them gave up. Doesn't that quote ring so true now? No relationship is easy. There are certainly commitment issues and doubts that crop up, there's temptation at every turn, and there are often egg-shell egos involved. Unless both of you double down on making the relationship work, it only has a 50-50 chance. Is it a coincidence that this is almost exactly the ongoing divorce rate? We think not. So, with respect to that quote, another way to put it would be that "anything worth your while is worth the effort." Think about this for a moment. If everyone were as serious about their relationships as they are about their jobs, where do you think the divorce rate might be? As a corollary, if everyone expected their job to be as easy as their relationship to be, how often would a person have to look for a new job? You'd have half the country constantly switching jobs, wouldn't you? If your job is that important and you take great care to keep the one you have, why not put the same effort into relationships? Back to our quote. Simple version: The health of a relationship is directly proportionate to the effort you put in.
====================A parting thought to give you something to mull over: Quoting someone is easy. The hard part is putting it into practice in your own life. Don't think you can make people think you're smart by spewing platitudes. That'll probably work with acquaintances and random party guests but not with the people who really know you. If you're going to be using any of these quotes to sound smarter, make sure you put the effort to imbibe their wisdom into your own life. If not, they're just words that disappear into thin air the moment they're spoken.